I posted here awhile back about finding a dating profile my wife had made. We talked for days and she said she didn't want to be with me anymore, but that if I changed some things that we could see where things were...we worked things out and got to a place where we seemed happy and working on us again.
Then a day I have been afraid of since learning how cruel the world can be came...We were working on things and then she told me that for the last month and a half she'd been seeing someone else and had cheated on me with this guy. She met him at a bar and he didn't care that she was married and we had two kids. She began to dump on me all the things she had been lying about to me the last few months, and we decided to separate.
The more we talk the more it seems like she wants to try dating me again and see where that goes, but my main problem is that she still wants to see this 'other guy.' Even though she's told me that she doesn't see it going anywhere. He is very serious about her (he lived in Florida and passed up a chance to move back because of her) but I don't know if she's telling us both the same thing. I love her with everything I am..she helped me rediscover things I love about me and I want things to work out between us. I hear alot of contradictory things come from her and I have serious bouts of anger and sadness that I can't control. It's all internal, but I'm afraid if it starts to spill over. I can't afford therapy because I'd love to try but I don't know how to deal with any of this....she isn't just my wife; she's my best friend and we only have each other to talk to about all of this.
Then a day I have been afraid of since learning how cruel the world can be came...We were working on things and then she told me that for the last month and a half she'd been seeing someone else and had cheated on me with this guy. She met him at a bar and he didn't care that she was married and we had two kids. She began to dump on me all the things she had been lying about to me the last few months, and we decided to separate.
The more we talk the more it seems like she wants to try dating me again and see where that goes, but my main problem is that she still wants to see this 'other guy.' Even though she's told me that she doesn't see it going anywhere. He is very serious about her (he lived in Florida and passed up a chance to move back because of her) but I don't know if she's telling us both the same thing. I love her with everything I am..she helped me rediscover things I love about me and I want things to work out between us. I hear alot of contradictory things come from her and I have serious bouts of anger and sadness that I can't control. It's all internal, but I'm afraid if it starts to spill over. I can't afford therapy because I'd love to try but I don't know how to deal with any of this....she isn't just my wife; she's my best friend and we only have each other to talk to about all of this.