It is unrealistic to marry someone, knowing their personality, and then insist all that change!
Something you are going to have to do is think about who you fell in love with. Did you enter into the marriage hoping to "tame her"? What were your goals? What sort of life had you envisioned together?
I suggest you both do something that is very difficult inlight of the romantic notions surrounding marriage. If you were having this issue in the board room or with a co-worker, how would you approach it? In other words, it might help to approach your differences on a contractual level instead of a romantic level, because your fighting doesn't solve anything.
When marriages have this huge difference in personalities, it is sometimes best to approach your problems in a business like manner to avoid destroying each other on a personal level!
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