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magicsunset08 · 11-18-2008, 10:33 AM

It is obvious your husband is a control freak. You have to quit letting him control you. When we get married we get so complacent with ourselves and so dependent on our spouse. Do some things for yourself. It sounds like your hubby loves you, but tends to be on the selfish side. People don't change over ninght. I think your hubby can change. It sounds to me that he will start to make some changes to make you happy and then once he feels you are satisfied he goes right back to his old ways. Only you can change that. You need to do things for yourself. Of course, I would not reccomend adultery. I am talking about school. There are so many ways to get it done. If you were to go to beauty school and get it done without him, just think of how rewarding it would be. Marriage is a 2 way street. We are supposed to support and encourage on another. As men, we are supposed to love our wives as Christ did the Church. Often times it just does not happen. In times like these you have to buckle down get fed up and do it yourself. I bet he will start to value more then. People can change, but they have to have a reason and they must want to change. The ball is in your court. Are you gonna play offense or defense?

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magicsunset08 Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: midwest Posts: 101	Re: I am a basket case and need some advice plese It is obvious your husband is a control freak. You have to quit letting him control you. When we get married we get so complacent with ourselves and so dependent on our spouse. Do some things for yourself. It sounds like your hubby loves you, but tends to be on the selfish side. People don't change over ninght. I think your hubby can change. It sounds to me that he will start to make some changes to make you happy and then once he feels you are satisfied he goes right back to his old ways. Only you can change that. You need to do things for yourself. Of course, I would not reccomend adultery. I am talking about school. There are so many ways to get it done. If you were to go to beauty school and get it done without him, just think of how rewarding it would be. Marriage is a 2 way street. We are supposed to support and encourage on another. As men, we are supposed to love our wives as Christ did the Church. Often times it just does not happen. In times like these you have to buckle down get fed up and do it yourself. I bet he will start to value more then. People can change, but they have to have a reason and they must want to change. The ball is in your court. Are you gonna play offense or defense?