Sprite

And yes magic, my husband was a control freak. He claims he is not now....but I havent really had the chance to call him on it. He tries to spend every waking minute with me and I have no chance to do something on my own. He always wants to be there. If I say I am going shopping...he says...let me get my coat. And I did think about going to school, but at this point I would not go for cosmotology as I have arthritis in my lower back and hips and can not stand all day cutting peoples hair. I tried to go once for tax preparation..I am good with numbers as long as it isnt algebra...but that was a no go too. He didnt want to be sued if I made a mistake on someones taxes..which I tried explaining wouldnt happen..but again, he is smarter than me so what do I know(thats how I felt before..I am much stronger and wiser now).

When I met him I had some major self esteem issues which I was getting over until he bacame this other person that I didnt marry. Then the issues came back because I realized that he is much like my step mother. If you are told you are worthless and good for nothing long enough...sometimes you tend to start believing it. But I have wised up over the past few years. A part of me will always allow him to control me and that is because of how I was brought up and how I thought a wife was supposed to be. But I don't let him do it now...not to the extent he did before. Of course he didn't see it as being controlling...his intention was to protect me(so he says)..but from what I am not sure!