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hopelessinwa · 11-19-2007, 11:31 AM

My finace both have kids from previous relationships. Not a big deal. When we talked about moving in together we decided to buy a house. With my credit from struggling from being a single mother for 16 years, I dont have the best rating. So we decided to just have him put it in his name. I guess that was my first mistake.

I took time off work to get the paper work in to the loan processor, for the inspeciton, for the repair and such. He worked 2 hours from town at the time, so it was easier for me to do it. And I didnt mind. That is what relationships are about working together for a common goal.

Anways, the other night he had a mortage protection lady come out. We found out he may be going to iraq. He wanted me to be a part of this so I was with him from the time she got there. She made the comment that it was nice that HE wanted to make sure I WAS PROTECTED. Of course I said yes and it made me feel good about our relationship.

Well when it came time to list the benificiaries, he list his EX MOTHER IN LAW and TWO KIDS!!!! What a blow to me!!! So of course I lost it.

I dont understand why he even wanted me to be a part of this? Why move in with me, why build a home together if it is for HIM and HIS KIDS only, He knew he was going to list them why have me sit there and slap me in the face with this. This was worse than just punching me in the face. I feel like he took a knife to my chest and ripped my heart out.

His reasoning for this is because we have been argueing. SO what there should have never been a second thought in his mind that I should have been on there, and with a stipulation that if something did happen to him, when I decided to sell the house I would have to give his kids half. I make half the damn payments on this house, and I am now just so hurt and lost. I cant understand why he would do that.

I told him its nice to know its not OUR house its HIS house. I told him I was no longer going to put money towards a house that if something happens to him I would be homeless. How fair is this to me? Am I over reacting? I just dont get it.

11-19-2007, 11:31 AM	#1 (permalink)
hopelessinwa Registered User Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: WA Posts: 4	Am I over reacting? My finace both have kids from previous relationships. Not a big deal. When we talked about moving in together we decided to buy a house. With my credit from struggling from being a single mother for 16 years, I dont have the best rating. So we decided to just have him put it in his name. I guess that was my first mistake. I took time off work to get the paper work in to the loan processor, for the inspeciton, for the repair and such. He worked 2 hours from town at the time, so it was easier for me to do it. And I didnt mind. That is what relationships are about working together for a common goal. Anways, the other night he had a mortage protection lady come out. We found out he may be going to iraq. He wanted me to be a part of this so I was with him from the time she got there. She made the comment that it was nice that HE wanted to make sure I WAS PROTECTED. Of course I said yes and it made me feel good about our relationship. Well when it came time to list the benificiaries, he list his EX MOTHER IN LAW and TWO KIDS!!!! What a blow to me!!! So of course I lost it. I dont understand why he even wanted me to be a part of this? Why move in with me, why build a home together if it is for HIM and HIS KIDS only, He knew he was going to list them why have me sit there and slap me in the face with this. This was worse than just punching me in the face. I feel like he took a knife to my chest and ripped my heart out. His reasoning for this is because we have been argueing. SO what there should have never been a second thought in his mind that I should have been on there, and with a stipulation that if something did happen to him, when I decided to sell the house I would have to give his kids half. I make half the damn payments on this house, and I am now just so hurt and lost. I cant understand why he would do that. I told him its nice to know its not OUR house its HIS house. I told him I was no longer going to put money towards a house that if something happens to him I would be homeless. How fair is this to me? Am I over reacting? I just dont get it.