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1999 · 03-02-2011, 06:54 PM

Hello everyone, I would really appreciate some advice.

I have been happily married for over two years with no problems. A couple of weeks ago my wife began talking to a male friend of hers on a social network site. She knew this friend around 5 years ago and they basically just hung around together occasionally after meeting through mutual friends. They decided they would meet up some time to catch up and exchanged mobile numbers. They text each other quite a lot over the next few days before meeting up for a few hours while having food and a few drinks. After this they have decided they should start meeting up more often.

I do feel like I trust my wife 100% but the idea of her having a male friend who she meets and texts regularly really makes me feel uneasy. I said to her that I didn't feel totally comfortable with it but I don't want to be a controlling husband who tells her who she can and cannot see. She told me she didnt want to not be able to have a friend just because I didnt feel comfortable about it, and pointed out that I am still friends with a couple of my friends (all male) despite her not really liking them.

Now I have kind of a sick and anxious feeling which I guess is jealousy and despite trusting her I still cant stop feeling this way. Has anyone else had a situation like this? Anyone just have some good advice for not feeling so bad?

*A little more info: My wife has been totally honest in talking about this friend. She did say she has kissed him in the past. I have never been cheated on in the past so have no history from which my feelings may stem.

Many thanks!

03-02-2011, 06:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
1999 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 8	Feeling anxious and jealous of my wifes male friend Hello everyone, I would really appreciate some advice. I have been happily married for over two years with no problems. A couple of weeks ago my wife began talking to a male friend of hers on a social network site. She knew this friend around 5 years ago and they basically just hung around together occasionally after meeting through mutual friends. They decided they would meet up some time to catch up and exchanged mobile numbers. They text each other quite a lot over the next few days before meeting up for a few hours while having food and a few drinks. After this they have decided they should start meeting up more often. I do feel like I trust my wife 100% but the idea of her having a male friend who she meets and texts regularly really makes me feel uneasy. I said to her that I didn't feel totally comfortable with it but I don't want to be a controlling husband who tells her who she can and cannot see. She told me she didnt want to not be able to have a friend just because I didnt feel comfortable about it, and pointed out that I am still friends with a couple of my friends (all male) despite her not really liking them. Now I have kind of a sick and anxious feeling which I guess is jealousy and despite trusting her I still cant stop feeling this way. Has anyone else had a situation like this? Anyone just have some good advice for not feeling so bad? *A little more info: My wife has been totally honest in talking about this friend. She did say she has kissed him in the past. I have never been cheated on in the past so have no history from which my feelings may stem. Many thanks!