Originally Posted by josh1081
Well the custody thing isn't a problem. We work opposite shifts from each other so when one has the kids, the other is at work, and vice versa. She has already told me that she won't go after me for child support as long as I pay on the debt we owe. She really can't take on that much more financial burden, and the benefits of getting support from me don't outweigh the financial drag down of helping our debt. Plus I'm paying on that already so it's no different then now anyway.
for the most part we are very agreeable with normal every day things. This is one aspect of her I trust her not to go astray on. Just about the only part of her I can.
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Be very careful with this. Most states don't care what sort of agreement the formerly married parties come to when it comes to child support. When your divorce is finalized, unless you have a 50/50 shared custody plan in place and on paper, the state will decide how much support you need to pay to her and will mandate that you pay it. Oh, and you'll be paying it to them, and they'll be taking out a "small processing fee", and forwarding the rest on to her. You should at least look into how your state works these things and if you refuse legal counsel, be wary.