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loren · 03-04-2011, 07:11 AM

Surely, if they're as close as all that she'd like him to meet the main man in her life, and she'd want you two to become friends? IMO, if there's nothing going on and they're just friends then why would you be left out of that? Could she intentionally be trying to make you jealous? I think that's what the 'dropping hints' comment was getting at. Maybe you pi$$ed her off and this is her passive aggressive way of getting back at you, as the texting is frankly overt. i.e. maybe nothing's going on, but she wants you to worry...

Go out with them together, and get to know him. What do you know about him, other than at some point he fancied your wife? Is he married/in a relationship? At the very least, say you want to meet him. Invite him for dinner or go out, just the three of you. If your wife objects to this for any reason, then I would have cause for concern. If she is happy with the three of you being friends, then it could all just be paranoia, but I would let her know how you feel about the texting thing, and ask her how she'd feel if you were texting an old hookup...

03-04-2011, 07:11 AM	#10 (permalink)
loren Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 108	Re: Feeling anxious and jealous of my wifes male friend Surely, if they're as close as all that she'd like him to meet the main man in her life, and she'd want you two to become friends? IMO, if there's nothing going on and they're just friends then why would you be left out of that? Could she intentionally be trying to make you jealous? I think that's what the 'dropping hints' comment was getting at. Maybe you pi$$ed her off and this is her passive aggressive way of getting back at you, as the texting is frankly overt. i.e. maybe nothing's going on, but she wants you to worry... Go out with them together, and get to know him. What do you know about him, other than at some point he fancied your wife? Is he married/in a relationship? At the very least, say you want to meet him. Invite him for dinner or go out, just the three of you. If your wife objects to this for any reason, then I would have cause for concern. If she is happy with the three of you being friends, then it could all just be paranoia, but I would let her know how you feel about the texting thing, and ask her how she'd feel if you were texting an old hookup... __________________ Am I perfect? No. Just better than I was a moment ago, hopefully. Last edited by loren; 03-04-2011 at 07:18 AM.