Re: what to do?
Okay, here is the thing. You don't hold against the new guy the years you let yourself be unhappy with your husband. The fact of the matter is unless you compare them now without the back stuff your'll never see clear. You have eight years with your husband so you know the good and bad to expect. He is willing to communicate and change for you. You have made it over a hurdle many couples can't. But you beat yourself down for letting things get to where they are. People do change and you can change yourself. If you do not then you can just as easily bring that into any relationship you will ever have. If you give your husband another honest chance you could have every good thing you liked and more. The other guy while he has advantages there doesn't mean that when the mundane sets in the same problems will not come back.
I think you need to work on yourself first. Remember if things go sour again you can leave, you are strong enough that you did it before.
draconis
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