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Old 03-05-2011, 07:27 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Now what if this compliance officer calls me? I'm dying to settle the score and exact my revenge. If I don't tell him what I really think then I am lying to cover up for my wife and protect the guys that I hate and who played a part in wrecking my marriage. I don't know if I can play their little game. I think I would rather tell it all and let the bodies hit the floor where they stand. Not sure what to do
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So your main question "What if the compliance officer calls me?" right? Should you tell the truth or should you try to cover for your wife and her infidelities...right?

Mike this answer is pretty easy and I suspect you know it, but just in case let me give you permission to TELL THE TRUTH. If you reach out to the compliance officer to complain, that could be viewed as vengeance, but if someone else is trying to stir the bee's nest and the compliance officer calls you, I say tell him exactly 100% of everything you know. Here's why: 1) it is not "telling the truth" that will embarrass and destroy the folks involved...it is THEIR BEHAVIOR and their actions; 2) if you do not tell the truth, that poor company will never know the viper's den that place has become and will not know that they need to take care of it. They'll function under the misconception that "it's okay there" and it is FAR from okay there!

So if he calls you, you tell 100% the truth!!! Let those who behaved inappropriately experience the consequence of their choices to behave inappropriately! It's called maturity and personal responsibility.
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