Originally Posted by Bigwayneo
I am way to nice, my wife has told me that for years, but I never really noticed until this **** hit. So that is one thing I need to work on.
Too nice? Does that give her free reign to do something like this? I don't get that, why does stuff like this happen to nice people? Why has nice gotten to be some sort of stigma in relationships? Would she have preferred if you were abusive or something like that or just an all around jackass? Now you're the one that's left to try and fix things while the real jackass seems to have gotten away Scott free. By the way, I wouldn't be above whuppin his ass but, at this point, you've had time to think and anything you do would be premeditated so leave it alone, his time will come either in this life or the next. Sorry, this is your thread and here I am venting.
Anyway, this is a very heavy on you, that's for certain. It sounds like she's hit bottom and is ready to come back up but not you. You need to find some way to let this all out so you can let go and start over. The old marriage is done with, it's time to start fresh and she wants to with you, do you with her? If not, there's no reason to pretend but, if you do, do it 100%. You could start by communicating your feelings in other ways than cutting remarks that only serve to push her away and make her feel worse than she already does right now.