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The 13th_Floor · 03-07-2011, 10:42 PM

Thanks for your replies -

First off, try to refrain from the, "dude, a hotel room and no PA," bull****. I'm not an idiot, nor in denial.

Let me clarify a few things. I'm in Europe, wife is in the states. She was texting this guy like crazy (got her phone records,) she lied about her weekend, drove (not flew) to another state 10 hours away.

The hotel room reservation was for 2 adults, with 1 king bed. According to her mobile phone logs, she called him when she got there, and over the 3 days she was there, not a SINGLE call or text occurred. Obviously, a text or call would be needed for meeting up the next day for their plans, but there weren't any. They slept together.

It sounds like I'm in denial because my wife and I are living apart, and I can't truly confront her. I can only believe what she tells me over the phone at this point. Oh and quit the Clinton and "just laid there" crap. I get it, guys, but she's still my wife and you need to take a step back and respect that.

Truth is, she has shown no remorse and got defensive when I confronted her, and she didn't call me for 3 days after I caught her. That leaves me no choice but to be a man and confront her the right way in person. March 17th, yeehaw!

I've imported the mobile records into Excel, printed out her Hotel reservation and that's all I need. Those two documents tell all. No phone contact for the three days she was there, plus 2 adults booked for 1 bed. I can use that to catch her in a lie by asking how they got a hold of each other to meet up, go out, pick up times ETC. If she tells me via text message, I'm going to drop the mobile records on her lap and say BAM!

To some it up -

Wife no longer sexually attracted, we're 6k miles apart, her weekend excursion (got her hair done the day she left,) lied heavily about it, no remorse, got defensive. Sounds to me like she cheated too, but I can't be positive because I don't have total proof, nor a confession, nor access to texts. She doesn't email or Facebook him. Too many unanswered questions at this point.

The day I found out about their weekend getaway, I managed to get her mobile records, his name, email address, his mother's name and email address, six or so family members from Facebook, his unit and his commander. Even if she confesses, though, I would only send his mother and family the proof so they can see what he's getting himself into.

Like I said earlier, a PA is a deal breaker for me so there will be nothing to work out. No need to break up their contact, or get him a dishonorable discharge. It was my wife who INDULGED him. Someone also mentioned hiring a PI. No need, he's leaving for Afghanistan like today or yesterday.

It's going to suck getting the confession. I don't want ANY details. All I'm going to ask her for is a yes or a no. We can still be friends, I'd probably even still support her through school, but when she realizes that Mr. Right was actually Mr. Rightnow, I won't be there for her, never again. I think that will put her through a hell of her own.
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The 13th_Floor Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 298	Re: My Wife's Emotional Affair... My Battle Strategy Thanks for your replies - First off, try to refrain from the, "dude, a hotel room and no PA," bull***. I'm not an idiot, nor in denial. Let me clarify a few things. I'm in Europe, wife is in the states. She was texting this guy like crazy (got her phone records,) she lied about her weekend, drove (not flew) to another state 10 hours away. The hotel room reservation was for 2 adults, with 1 king bed. According to her mobile phone logs, she called him when she got there, and over the 3 days she was there, not a SINGLE call or text occurred. Obviously, a text or call would be needed for meeting up the next day for their plans, but there weren't any. They slept together. It sounds like I'm in denial because my wife and I are living apart, and I can't truly confront her. I can only believe what she tells me over the phone at this point. Oh and quit the Clinton and "just laid there" crap. I get it, guys, but she's still my wife and you need to take a step back and respect that. Truth is, she has shown no remorse and got defensive when I confronted her, and she didn't call me for 3 days after I caught her. That leaves me no choice but to be a man and confront her the right way in person. March 17th, yeehaw! I've imported the mobile records into Excel, printed out her Hotel reservation and that's all I need. Those two documents tell all. No phone contact for the three days she was there, plus 2 adults booked for 1 bed. I can use that to catch her in a lie by asking how they got a hold of each other to meet up, go out, pick up times ETC. If she tells me via text message, I'm going to drop the mobile records on her lap and say BAM! To some it up - Wife no longer sexually attracted, we're 6k miles apart, her weekend excursion (got her hair done the day she left,) lied heavily about it, no remorse, got defensive. Sounds to me like she cheated too, but I can't be positive because I don't have total proof, nor a confession, nor access to texts. She doesn't email or Facebook him. Too many unanswered questions at this point. The day I found out about their weekend getaway, I managed to get her mobile records, his name, email address, his mother's name and email address, six or so family members from Facebook, his unit and his commander. Even if she confesses, though, I would only send his mother and family the proof so they can see what he's getting himself into. Like I said earlier, a PA is a deal breaker for me so there will be nothing to work out. No need to break up their contact, or get him a dishonorable discharge. It was my wife who INDULGED him. Someone also mentioned hiring a PI. No need, he's leaving for Afghanistan like today or yesterday. It's going to suck getting the confession. I don't want ANY details. All I'm going to ask her for is a yes or a no. We can still be friends, I'd probably even still support her through school, but when she realizes that Mr. Right was actually Mr. Rightnow, I won't be there for her, never again. I think that will put her through a hell of her own. Posted via Mobile Device* Last edited by The 13th_Floor; 03-07-2011 at 11:12 PM.