| | Re: What is Life and Marriage? Please answer this ultra stupid man
You are the first person in this blog to advice me not to dump her, and I am glad there is someone who thinks like me. I agree my wife is rash, abrupt, childish kind of stupid but con no. I guess it takes some taking to be one. I am in a job that brings me across a lot of people who are really-really shrewd. Without disrespecting her intelligence I would like to say she has never ever done anything according to plan.
There are some mistakes I have done as well. Particularly like taking her out to four seasons for our first date, when she herself told me she has never been to an expensive place ever in her life. Gifting her 85K ring, this would certainly marred her thinking from taking a right kind of a decision. It was immature on my part to think a girl who is full of energy, charisma and youth would fall for an ugly guy never mind race and the five years age gap. I mean when you have plenty of handsome men eager for a second glance why would you choose a jerk like me.
When I met her she was barely able to make her ends meet. I was awestruck by her beauty (I am till today) the vibrant energy that flows with her. Maybe similarly she got lured by my lifestyle.
Yes her upbringing was not of the kind one would be proud of. Her father is an abusive man who still beats her mother even today. She left school at vey young age to start supporting her mother and herself.
As far as her cheating ways are concerned well I may offend some people but people here is America people absolutely love the concept of “one night stands” when you already married to someone else. Some of my white male friends have these casual flings going on all while they are married with kids. It hurts me a lot what she did but again you cannot change the past. While marrying her I was in a way kind of thinking from my pants she perhaps used her brain too much.
As far as love is concerned I know whatever she may say or not say she is attached to me. Initially she might have married me for money but that’s not the case today.
Since, yesterday she is been very quite (very unlike her), I saw her crying in the bathroom (she had no clue I knew it). She needs to learn some lesson so here is what I have planned for her.
• If I ever catch her cheating again she is going packing out of my life.
• We will catch up with a Marriage Counselor and may be a psychologist to put some good sense in her head.
• No alcohol or any such nasty stuff that accentuates her eccentric behavior.
• No kids for now, first you go back to school and complete your education.
• Last but not the least she has to start living a slightly modest life. She cannot treat people with disrespect.
As far saving my financial assets from her I don’t really care much. Even six years back in India I use to earn more then I could spend. After all I also need someone to burn my money
What do you think do we have a realistic chance to bring in a change? As for people who want me to dump her honestly speaking I am too weak a man to do she is kind of indispensable to me.