| | Re: What is Life and Marriage? Please answer this ultra stupid man
I'm glad you see the writing on the wall and that is a great move in talking to a lawyer...good job and smart!
She is so going to want you back and will try her best to turn you back in to a submissive husband that she once had. Do not allow that to happen, be strong in the belief that you are right and she is wrong. No matter what she tells you ... you are the rightous one and diserve happiness.
Your parents are happy and you see the way they treat each other right? Well then learn by there examble. you see how your mom treats your dad right? well are you going to get that from your wife?
I believe you will get some nice treat ment from her know but it won't be long before she is up to her old ways. See me being a drinker it is my experience that when I speak of such thing as she did it is how I really feel. So I believe she at one point truely felt this way about you b/c she is immature and doesn't realize what a hard working guy you are.
She doesn't see a stable and secure guy that would have taken care of her. In stead she is in this fantasy world. I think she likes it there. I think once she gets you back you will be getting belittled again and no one diserves that sh*t. Man up and own yourself take back your self respect and tell her to move on and that you are now better and stronger and if you want her back you will decide when to take her back... not her.
I see no reason to rush in and take her back. make her wait and if you see a change for the better then you can always start back up, but I would give it year. So please at least set a time line and seperate from her for now. I would bet that as soon as you split she will be with OM. this will show you her true colors.
Granted you guys seperate and she become a better person well then you can readdress the relationship, but for know you need distance from her. This time away will give you a chance to rebuild your confidence that she has taken away from you.
So I hope you get my point? Let her wait it out and see what she does. Some time we have to let the ones we love free so we stop getting hurt by them.