MarkTwain

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It often happens in relationships that people have a list of complaints at a certain time, and although they go unfulfilled, at the time, some time later, they get done. Meanwhile, the person with the list says, that would have been good if you had done that earlier, but now it's too late. In your particular case, it appears simple in that it's one sided - only you have the list.

There are other threads on this forum, where both sides have a list, and both sides are fulfilled, but at the wrong time. This can go on and on in a terrible cycle. I call this being out of sync.

If you want to get into sync, all one person has to do, is accept the timing of the delivery of the list as it is now. As you are the only one with the list, only you have the power to do this. You had a reason for building the wall, but the reason has past. Now you're just wallowing in it. you're wasting your time and his.

Of course, he is not perfect, and other complaints will arise, but if you don't realise what you have now, and stop this cycle, you will end up divorced.