jjaymo

Hi draconis...The problem was communication, lack there of. He didn't take much seriously and didn't seem interested in anything that I had to say. He was emotionally removed. And I know he didn't stray from me, I just know. So that couldn't be the cause. I ended up emotionally straying from him due to that by making a connection with another (a male friend) and spent a lot of time talking with him. I had then decided I could no longer be in the relationship that had just seemed to wither away and told my husband I was leaving him and at that time told him about the friendship I had with this other man. He wanted couseling, I refused because I had asked him in the past if we could get counseling and he said he didnt believe in it...so he panicked and I said 'it's too late'. A week later, we learned we were pregnant with our now 4 year old daughter. He asked me to stay at least through the pregnancy, and I did as I was afraid to go it alone. We started to see things differently and seemed to manage to get along better and started talking to eachother about the things that mattered. It was a wonderful time actually. Happiest time in our marriage. He and I got past the problems we had and moved on. So was it ever resolved? I think so, but unintentionally, if that makes any sense. However, today...litterally today, I just learned that he has kept a lot to himself over the last year, things that have been bothering him, and he won't talk to me about them today. He is torchering me. I even told him, he might as well bind me down and light on fire, because that is exactly what it feels like for me...knowing things have been bothering him and yet he wont tell me. So we are now back to square one. No communication. I told him today that "I wish I were not having this baby with him. I don't know what I was thinking." Sometimes I wonder if I could do this alone.