Originally Posted by Brennan
This isn't about porn, people....this is about trust. She made it perfectly clear that porn was not going to be a part of her marriage. He lied to her and shreaded her trust. This is about lying. Those of you who say "It's just porn get over it" let me ask you....what are your dealbreakers? What if you had awful past experiences with say the color yellow and came home to find your kitchen freshly painted in that color? Would it be okay for your spouse to say "Oh, it's just paint"? The fact is her husband knew what her dealbreaker was and this was it. It doesn't matter if he was in a time capsule or in Iraq, he knew what she was and was not comfortable with and he broke her trust. To many of you it might sound idiotic but ask yourselves what defines a dealbreaker. Each of us have our own. I have a relative who lost her husband to lung cancer. She is now dating again and if her boyfriend lit up one night, she would view it as a huge betrayal and dealbreaker. Would those of you be so quick to say "It's just a cigarette?"
Her pain is real and it is normal. I have no idea why she is being painted as some drama queen who just needs to get over it.
Well said. So many people miss the point...
"I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality."
- Bryon Katie