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upstate_guy · 03-17-2011, 08:37 AM

4 months from D-Day for me and I'm still going through the good day/bad day thing every week.

It's frustrating that the bad days seem to come from nowhere, and often follow a string of great days, but I guess that's just part of the process.

As time goes on I'm learning more about what puts me in the mindset to have a bad day and it's always obsessive thoughts about the EA and the past. When I stay busy I seem to be able to keep those thoughts from taking hold, but when I have too much free time and my mind starts wandering, I start to focus in on the hurt and spiral downward. It's one of those "idle hands do the devil's work" things. It's pretty clear to me that I am obsessing about my wife's past with the guy she had the EA with (ex-bf) and I am going to IC but haven't been able to break through yet.

03-17-2011, 08:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
upstate_guy Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 31	Re: Good and Bad Days 4 months from D-Day for me and I'm still going through the good day/bad day thing every week. It's frustrating that the bad days seem to come from nowhere, and often follow a string of great days, but I guess that's just part of the process. As time goes on I'm learning more about what puts me in the mindset to have a bad day and it's always obsessive thoughts about the EA and the past. When I stay busy I seem to be able to keep those thoughts from taking hold, but when I have too much free time and my mind starts wandering, I start to focus in on the hurt and spiral downward. It's one of those "idle hands do the devil's work" things. It's pretty clear to me that I am obsessing about my wife's past with the guy she had the EA with (ex-bf) and I am going to IC but haven't been able to break through yet.