| | Re: Fighting a losing battle?
2 years and he cheats, drinks.. all that jazz.
Well, you may or may not find this comforting but the fact is that most couples lose the voodoo spell of love after 2 years. When we areunder this spell, we see the other person as perfect, and then one day we are disgusted to find out that they are actually normal people!! The Nerve!!!
People that lose the feeling of voodoo love and then look to replace it, are often destine to a life of bad relationships because this will happen time and time again. Then when they dinnally do settle in and acept it.. they view the world as loveless and they imagine their existance as just settling for something, rather than enjoying the one they have.
Pretty sad and pathetic huh? Yeah I think so too. Without this knowledge, he will not have any motivation to change.
I generally follow a pattern of advice - if it is under 4 years and there are no kids, i usually suggest a split. This is because you will invest more time repairing the relationship than you have already invested. IT also is because cheating parters who act upon the love-loss feeling are emotionally underdeveloped and that poses a whole different set of problems.
So.. my advice is to move on, But at least now you will know why this happened.
There is no excuse to cheat, but there are always valid reasons to feel a need to. Acting on those reasons is a testemant to the character of the person.
***Expectation is premeditated resentment***