[QUOTE=swedish;27659]3 kids under 12--I'm pretty sure she has a tough job too
Absolutely...I didn't mean to imply that it isn't. The statement had more to do with the financial options she has right now to leave the house and move somewhere else.
did you stop dating & doing things as a couple when the kids came along?
This is interesting. I think we both went into a mode of playing a role of parents. As if not focusing on each other was some sign of maturity...like we were able to give love to our little ones and didn't need to show each other.
The question becomes how do you work on anything if one person wants to and the other doesn't. I feel like right now the only reason she even says separation and not divorce is that the state requires it first. It makes me feel like a total failure.