oceanbreeze

it sounds as if both of you lost sight on what you based your marriage on as times (work, paying for housing, car/car insurance.... real life) got to the both of you.

i cant tell you how to fix it because i think that the both of you know what the main pinpointed problem is. also, there may be more arguments due to the fact that both of you are growing people. both of you are learning about yourselves and sometimes there are periods your personalities, characteristics, likes/dislikes, values, etc. clash. the things you used to agree on are different because both of you have grown and developed your own opinions, thoughts, and feelings about a subject. agree to disagree. sit down and make it a point what is important to discuss: finance, rent, buying a house, food, making a family, things like that. what i mean is that both of you need to know what to pick your battles on. fluctuate between the roles of passive and active (recessive vs. dominant) and just flow together instead of apart. both of your love conquers all, but know what is really important in your relationship.