 Re: Depressed hubby leaves - round 4
Can you change your frame of reference and consider that you are allowing a man who refuses to seek treatment of a treatable mental illness to decide whether or not to continue the relationship. He has disrupted your life and your child's life for many years because you allow him to walk in and out at will. Not only is this a very bad example of marriage to expose your son to it is probably damaging to him psychologically. He is learning that he is loved so little by his Dad that he abandons him when he needs him the most. Moreover, your self esteem has taken a beating of monumental proportions.
Can you consider that all of these problems can be solved by refusing to let your concern for your husband cloud your judgement about what this is doing to you and your child. You seem to be a co- dependent person, you aid your husband in continued bad choices about his illness and ignore your boy's need for stable adult relationships and your right to a loving caring relationship.
I really feel bad that you have been hurt so many times and I hope you will find the strength, love for yourself and courage to keep your husband out of your life from now on. Best of luck to you.
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