Originally Posted by AFEH
You know I really don’t go along with this Alpha/Beta stuff as far as us humans are concerned. They are terms taken from the animal kingdom. Say in the Lion Kingdom, if the Alpha Female does not submit to the Alpha Male the Alpha Male kills her! If a lion cannot dominate the Alpha Female, she sees him off. It’s all a matter of gene selection and which male can protect the lionesses cubs from marauding males.
But how to get away from Alpha/Beta? It’s all to do with Leadership, strength of conviction and being a very good provider. The human male must know what they want to do with their life and exactly how they are going to be the provider. And then he takes into account what his wife wants to do and does everything he can to ensure that his wife leads a happy and fulfilling life. He does this by inspiring her to greater things and by some manipulation so that both husband and wife get what they want out of their lives. And if he has chosen a good wife she will support him in his endeavours to be the best provider he can be.
MNG your wife in the above is being the Leader in your marriage. But how many times did she tell you she wants you to be the leader, she wants you to take the reigns?
You are so used to sitting back and being a “follower”. To some of us Leadership comes easy, we’re natural born leaders. Maybe the very best thing you can do for yourself is to take a leadership training program.
You misunderstand the connotations for Alpha and Beta. They have less to do with rank than they do with active and passive modes of behavior.