| | Re: On the verge of separation/divorce and having feelings for another man
I'm not going to judge you concerning the feelings for another. But I will encourage you to resolve the situation with your husband, and if you choose to divorce, give yourself some time to really get to know yourself before considering a relationship. So many times, when people see that other option, they are not thinking clearly, and these relationships fail.
I say this because it is really relevant to me. A woman recently started to work in my office. I noticed that she was looking at me ... kind of meaningfully. I kept things professional. Still, in a different life, I could see us being interested in each other. Got a phone message from her husband a couple of months ago, 'just informing me that she had the hots', but they were already in a rocky patch (unfortunatly, my personal number is listed in our work directory due to the nature of my job). Then, he just ... vented, even though she told him that I wasn't even aware of the feelings. What I'm getting at in a roundabout way is that I consider myself a decent guy. I would never let myself have a relationship with someone in a relationship, especially a rocky one. It's like taking advantage of a person, more or less. Are you sure you want to let these feeling evolve?
If things are going to end in the relationship, just don't accept that this chance occurance will present you with your best mate for life. And ask yourself if your husband at least needs to know that you are leaving, and has time to process it before you are with another guy. Some serious feelings of resentment are looming that you one day may regret.
Last edited by Halien; 03-27-2011 at 08:40 AM.