| | Re: SUPER jealous of wife's past
draconis and Amplexor are right. Don't use her honesty to against her. It is wrong to punish to make yourself feel better. Do that enough and she will be hesitant to tell you things that you want to know. How excited would you be to hold her hand if she got on your case about you holding another girls hand in the past?
Here's the important part. SHE CHANGED FOR YOU DUDE!!!!! You said that she is more conservative now and wouldn't dream of doing those things anymore. She probably doesn't like the fact that she lived that life and would change it if she could. In fact, she has changed it in the since that she met you and decided that you were worth the change!
This is an issue that you are going to have to battle with yourself. She has said that she cares for you and loves you. Dude, get over the fact that you can't get over a BIOLOGICAL EXPERIENCE. Although she might have gotten PLEASURE from all of that it must not have been enough to keep her away from you. The PLEASURE that she experiences from you is more than BIOLOGICAL EXPERIENCE but one that enhances and solidifies the love and commitment that the two of you have together. MAKING LOVE, that is what you do with her isn't it. Well, IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU! It's communicating love thorough touch with her. People are at their most vulnerable during this time (it is with you right). Don't punish her!
You have a family together. This will be a life lesson to your children that decisions they make will affect future relationships but you will also be able to teach them that it is never too late to change.
If she were wishing to revisit those days again then this would be something totally different. BUT IT'S NOT.
The next time you see her do this (without hesitation):
GO HUG HER
APOLOGIZE FOR PUNISHING HER
TELL HER YOU ARE THANKFUL THAT SHE CHANGED FOR THE RELATIONSHIP
TELL HER YOU AREN'T GOING TO HOLD ON TO THE PAST
TELL HER THAT YOU VALUE HER
TELL HER THAT TONIGHT IS ALL ABOUT HER AND YOU.