Originally Posted by sadlady100
We've had this talk so many times before and things change for a short time but then it's more of the same. I am tired. So very, very tired.
there are some things in my relationship that i've talked to death trying to fix. one thing i have learned with my H is that talking does very, very little in the way of change. I subscribed to some free emails from mortan ferrels (sp??) marriage thing (its on this webpage somewhere) and one of the things he said was to stop talking about your problems. I tried it with my H and it actually helped a lot.
Einstien's definition of insanity is trying the same things over and over again expecting different results. I tried not talking about my problems very much but learning to solve them on my own. but like i said before, that can only work to a degree. he has to be willing to admit that he's part of the problem. maybe not right now, but at some point.
It sounds like you also feel he doenst spend much quality time with you. you mentioned he's always doing other things. do you guys do anything together?
"I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality."
- Bryon Katie