 Re: Spending the entire Easter weekend with the OW gawd help me.
Hey sunflower----stop being a doormat
Your H cheated---passionately kissing another woman is cheating---end of discussion----doesn't matter what he thinks---it is cheating
Since he cheated, and he cannot be trusted---he has to be accountable
One of your boundaries must be NC with the other woman---THEREFORE THERE IS NO EASTER WEEKEND WITH THIS GROUP OF PEOPLE---he lost the right to have his enjoyable weekend when he cheated
How to handle the situation---you just tell him---no weekend---when he blows up, or pouts, or sulks or whatever he will do---you stay away from him---no arguing--no discussing---no anything---it is a boundary and he will honor it
If he refuses---then simply say to him fine---if you do not comply with what I want, I will be in an atty's office manana---AND DIVORCE IS ON THE TABLE IMMEDIATELY
You have to hardline him---he may not like it---but if he cares anything about you---or his financial future (and it would be sad if that is his main reason for staying)--he will comply with your request
He wants to go camping on easter weekend---the 2 of you can go camping somewhere else---JUST THE 2 OF YOU
Do not be afraid to use hardline tactics---they really do work
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