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Leopold Bloom · 03-30-2011, 08:59 AM

Saffron:

I agree that it is reasonable for me to see her credit card bills, and I've invited her to inspect mine. The problem is that she doesn't agree.

Brewster:

My wife is not one to stick to a budget. We've been fortunate that my income has been sufficient for us to live without watching where every penny goes, but as I close in on retirement age, the economy is going south and I doubt that social security or medicare will be there for us, I feel the need to watch our expenditures more closely.

Actually, I do have a very good idea of how much my wife has rung up, since I balance the checkbook. What I don't see, but would like to see, is the itemization of exactly what she spent it on.

Yes, she does have a huge sense of entitlement. I'm not a psychiatrist and don't play one on TV, but I suspect she has either narcissistic personality disorder or borderline personality disorder.

All:

I'm a not-very-quick-with-the-sharp-retort STEM kind of guy, and I am still looking for an answer to her challenge "Don't you trust me?" when I ask to see her CC bill, and to her challenge "Aren't I worth it?" when I question her expensive luxuries (would "Of course you're worth it, it's just we can't afford it" work?).

Help please?!!

03-30-2011, 08:59 AM	#5 (permalink)
Leopold Bloom Registered User Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 7	Re: Need advice on wife's spending Saffron: I agree that it is reasonable for me to see her credit card bills, and I've invited her to inspect mine. The problem is that she doesn't agree. Brewster: My wife is not one to stick to a budget. We've been fortunate that my income has been sufficient for us to live without watching where every penny goes, but as I close in on retirement age, the economy is going south and I doubt that social security or medicare will be there for us, I feel the need to watch our expenditures more closely. Actually, I do have a very good idea of how much my wife has rung up, since I balance the checkbook. What I don't see, but would like to see, is the itemization of exactly what she spent it on. Yes, she does have a huge sense of entitlement. I'm not a psychiatrist and don't play one on TV, but I suspect she has either narcissistic personality disorder or borderline personality disorder. All: I'm a not-very-quick-with-the-sharp-retort STEM kind of guy, and I am still looking for an answer to her challenge "Don't you trust me?" when I ask to see her CC bill, and to her challenge "Aren't I worth it?" when I question her expensive luxuries (would "Of course you're worth it, it's just we can't afford it" work?). Help please?!!