| | Re: Need advice on wife's spending
I agree that it is reasonable for me to see her credit card bills, and I've invited her to inspect mine. The problem is that she doesn't agree.
My wife is not one to stick to a budget. We've been fortunate that my income has been sufficient for us to live without watching where every penny goes, but as I close in on retirement age, the economy is going south and I doubt that social security or medicare will be there for us, I feel the need to watch our expenditures more closely.
Actually, I do have a very good idea of how much my wife has rung up, since I balance the checkbook. What I don't see, but would like to see, is the itemization of exactly what she spent it on.
Yes, she does have a huge sense of entitlement. I'm not a psychiatrist and don't play one on TV, but I suspect she has either narcissistic personality disorder or borderline personality disorder.
I'm a not-very-quick-with-the-sharp-retort STEM kind of guy, and I am still looking for an answer to her challenge "Don't you trust me?" when I ask to see her CC bill, and to her challenge "Aren't I worth it?" when I question her expensive luxuries (would "Of course you're worth it, it's just we can't afford it" work?).