| | Re: He is having a emotional affair
First of all, sorry you are going through this. Second of all, try to confirm if what he is telling you is 100% truthfull. He is probably giving you the watered down version to spare you. Install a key logger program on that laptop. It will tell you what he's typing on there. As to why he's so reved up after doing the cyber sex thing, well that's because it gets his juices flowing and he needs a release. This is not uncommen. What he is doing is wrong and disrespectul to your marriage.
If he has truly stopped, then its time for the healing to begin. I am not ready to say you guys need MC yet.... but it depends how he goes about dealing with is problem. If he seems clueless, or tries to protest this being "No Big Deal," then you may have no alternative but to get him into MC with you. If he is unwilling... then you may have to force his head by threatening to leave.