I hesitate putting this in the addiction thread but that might be what it is.
Hi my name is Lea and I have been married for two years (with my husband for 3) we have had a health relationship most of the times accept for some small mistakes that most people make. However our sex life is currently dead.
About 7 months into our relationship I noticed my hubby (boy friend at the time) watched A LOT of porn. At first it didn’t bother me I have always been a sexual person and the porn didn’t seem to get in the way. I finally however got fed up. We were living together and he started wanting me to go out by myself all the time for food or bills or groceries so he could stay home and wack off. He denied watching porn most of the time till I started snooping on his computer, then he even tried to deny it to my face. He got better our sex life got back up to par. Then we got married. He would sneak around and watch it on his phone and computer any chance he got.. He would even make me go to bed alone (and still does) so he can watch porn. I confronted him yet again and told him how it made me feel. I am 5’5” 135 pounds brown hair I know I am not ugly but I am certainly no bronzed over bleached porn star. I feel insecure now and gross. Instead of bothering him for sex (because I know he probably used on his man juices on porn) I just take care of myself and it makes me feel really sad and lonely. This has been a constant battle for the last 2 years with him. Recently he told me I met him when he was hitting his masturbation binge (he is now 23). Then he told me that he is always too tired to have sex but needs a release so he watches porn. Apparently the 5 min of sex he gives me is really taxing (sarcasm) He says his anti depressants take down his sex drive (but he cleans out his phone and computer history nightly)
Our sex life used to be great two or three times a week passionate kinky hot hot hot… Now I get 5 min 15 tops and that’s it. No foreplay. No kinky. No passion. Just ****ing for a bit then maybe some cuddling. I don’t want to be so unhappy but no matter how much I cry or tell him that this porn deal hurts me he makes me feel like I am overreacting and that it isn’t a problem..
Is it a problem? What do I do now? How do I make him want me again?
Hi my name is Lea and I have been married for two years (with my husband for 3) we have had a health relationship most of the times accept for some small mistakes that most people make. However our sex life is currently dead.
About 7 months into our relationship I noticed my hubby (boy friend at the time) watched A LOT of porn. At first it didn’t bother me I have always been a sexual person and the porn didn’t seem to get in the way. I finally however got fed up. We were living together and he started wanting me to go out by myself all the time for food or bills or groceries so he could stay home and wack off. He denied watching porn most of the time till I started snooping on his computer, then he even tried to deny it to my face. He got better our sex life got back up to par. Then we got married. He would sneak around and watch it on his phone and computer any chance he got.. He would even make me go to bed alone (and still does) so he can watch porn. I confronted him yet again and told him how it made me feel. I am 5’5” 135 pounds brown hair I know I am not ugly but I am certainly no bronzed over bleached porn star. I feel insecure now and gross. Instead of bothering him for sex (because I know he probably used on his man juices on porn) I just take care of myself and it makes me feel really sad and lonely. This has been a constant battle for the last 2 years with him. Recently he told me I met him when he was hitting his masturbation binge (he is now 23). Then he told me that he is always too tired to have sex but needs a release so he watches porn. Apparently the 5 min of sex he gives me is really taxing (sarcasm) He says his anti depressants take down his sex drive (but he cleans out his phone and computer history nightly)
Our sex life used to be great two or three times a week passionate kinky hot hot hot… Now I get 5 min 15 tops and that’s it. No foreplay. No kinky. No passion. Just ****ing for a bit then maybe some cuddling. I don’t want to be so unhappy but no matter how much I cry or tell him that this porn deal hurts me he makes me feel like I am overreacting and that it isn’t a problem..
Is it a problem? What do I do now? How do I make him want me again?