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LonelyNLost · 04-02-2011, 08:14 AM

The last EA, I felt stupid because I never suspected anything. I trusted him too much. I just felt like a huge idiot.

This time, while I don't have solid proof there are too many red flags to ignore. I feel dumb for believing him for as long as I have. She lives across the country, in his hometown where his friends live. Our 10 year anniversary was at the beginning of November. We didn't have much money so we just got each other cards. 5 days later, he bought a plane ticket back to his hometown, and he hadn't been there in 6 years, and hello you could have bought me flowers with a bit of that money! 3 weeks later I find him in his truck in the middle of the night talking to her. I didn't make the connection at that point. Then, for some weird reason (maybe because I can't control another human being) I let him go. It probably turned physical at that point. He swore to me he didn't see her, but now I'm talking to his best friend and without saying the exact words he's let me know that my H did see her.

Then after V-day, I let my H have 5 days to go "find himself" and I paid for it with our tax return. I really think that she flew in for that and they had a rendezvous. He was nowhere to be found, didn't answer his phone, wouldn't prove to me where he was, took cash, so no paper trail, and had a story ready when he came back.

I feel dumb because sometimes I do tend to believe him. But everything is clicking into place. He doesn't talk to his closest friends about any of it or even his family, because he knows he's wrong. He won't go to MC because he knows they'd know. He's a screw up. I can't believe he'd leave us for what? She lives across the country. Would he seriously divorce me and then she coincidentally moves here? I don't get it.

04-02-2011, 08:14 AM	#8 (permalink)
LonelyNLost Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: US Posts: 1,359	Re: What made you feel stupid? The last EA, I felt stupid because I never suspected anything. I trusted him too much. I just felt like a huge idiot. This time, while I don't have solid proof there are too many red flags to ignore. I feel dumb for believing him for as long as I have. She lives across the country, in his hometown where his friends live. Our 10 year anniversary was at the beginning of November. We didn't have much money so we just got each other cards. 5 days later, he bought a plane ticket back to his hometown, and he hadn't been there in 6 years, and hello you could have bought me flowers with a bit of that money! 3 weeks later I find him in his truck in the middle of the night talking to her. I didn't make the connection at that point. Then, for some weird reason (maybe because I can't control another human being) I let him go. It probably turned physical at that point. He swore to me he didn't see her, but now I'm talking to his best friend and without saying the exact words he's let me know that my H did see her. Then after V-day, I let my H have 5 days to go "find himself" and I paid for it with our tax return. I really think that she flew in for that and they had a rendezvous. He was nowhere to be found, didn't answer his phone, wouldn't prove to me where he was, took cash, so no paper trail, and had a story ready when he came back. I feel dumb because sometimes I do tend to believe him. But everything is clicking into place. He doesn't talk to his closest friends about any of it or even his family, because he knows he's wrong. He won't go to MC because he knows they'd know. He's a screw up. I can't believe he'd leave us for what? She lives across the country. Would he seriously divorce me and then she coincidentally moves here? I don't get it. __________________ ~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~ Or, you could be a big sap and trust your husband, and he could end up being a lying, spineless, cheater.