Originally Posted by SimplyAmorous
Yes, I can. I do not care for the Black & white mentality of her judgments upon ALL men. She has a Fundamentalist mindset with this issue. It is futile for me to even express my thoughts - she is right, WE ARE WRONG.
Further, she believes we should have no right to view it - we are belittled as compassionless objectifiers damaging innocent women around the globe, damaging ourselves, our marraiges, society, even our minds can not escape subtle harm. This is her firm belief. This is NOT mine, not for all men. I do not in any way deny or would spit in someone's face that many men abuse porn, wives suffer due to addictions. I am even against hard core, I think it goes too far, more regulations should be on the internet even. But instructional videos, I have zero issues with such things -where consenting adults choose to take part.
My husband does NOT objectify women , nor look down on them. Sure he likes a little eye candy, this is the nature of testosterone. My husband is a lower test guy, for me this tells me he is hormonally healthy & thriving, He is such a good guy, that I accually ENJOY seeing this "bad boy" part of him. And beings I used to be like a NUN, he likes that I am naughty as well - and we are completely & utterly monogomous. Takes nothing away from our marraige. If you knew us personally, you would SEE and believe.
And now, Syrum is throwing out the hypocrite card asking if any men would want their mothers, sisters or daughters doing porn. Much arsenol there. Crucify us. I asked my husband this morning, he admits immediately then he is a hypocrite. I guess me too. As if any of us are NOT in one area or another. Come now.
Given she also finds Romance novels harmful, I can assume sexual fantases of any type are also within this hurtful damaging realm. This is completely over the top for me personally. Her fiance should make note of these things for their future together, lest he dare have a wayward thought & express it. Better not be checking out another woman in her presence - He will be in the dog house for some time.
Lord, we should be shot, we visit Strip Clubs too. A male friend of mine is dating a stripper, she is an elementary School Teacher, 38 yrs old & enjoys her job on the side, she is putting her oldest through college with this cash. She talked with us at lenght one night. Seems very sincere but I can't help but wonder if she is USING HIM ! He spends alot of money on her! Women use men too. To throw that out of the equation entirely- in every instance, for me, is just wrong. Women choose to do these things for $$$, lots of it and fast. It comes from their own mouths.
I am assuming what you mean here is these porn women look like Barbie -shaply size 3's, then when they get together with their girlfriends naked (who else would they be looking at naked?), they are disappointed- repulsed seems rather severe to me. If they are not repulsed by their looks with clothes on, there is no way I would believe suddendly they would be repulsed taken off. (other than they may not be used to the hair -looking at porn today).
Not really sure why it would be any different for us woman, I like the looks of a slender man, and would choose to marry one, obesity would be repulsing to me. But God made all types, I have a male friend who CHOOSES and loves Plus size women, I will never forget him giving me a drive somewhere yrs ago, looking down & seeing his "Plumpers" magazine in the floor- (Plus sized porn)- he has no interest in Hugh Hefners bunnies. But he still enjoyed his little bit of porn, though his flavor was not easy to come by. Another good husband, faithful father, even into some of these politics we talk about. Also another hypocriet I guess as he does not even allow his young daughters to wear sleeveless shirts.
I asked my husband about this -just this morning. He was only into PLAYBOY, reading articles and enjoyed the layouts of women, he said they never had pictiures of the men's penis's in these magazines. That was always hidden. He would not have cared to look anyway. He is not into even seeing the man in porn. So he had no comparisons. I seriously doubt these things would bother him anyway. Life is riddled with temptations to compare - from our houses, our jobs, our hairstyles, our children, our cars, our marraiges, how is this anything new under the sun.