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Originally Posted by SimplyAmorous  Yes, I can. I do not care for the Black & white mentality of her judgments upon ALL men. She has a Fundamentalist mindset with this issue. It is futile for me to even express my thoughts - she is right, WE ARE WRONG. |
I could say you have a fundamental exploitative mindset.
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Further, she believes we should have no right to view it - we are belittled as compassionless objectifiers damaging innocent women around the globe, damaging ourselves, our marraiges, society, even our minds can not escape subtle harm. This is her firm belief. This is NOT mine, not for all men. I do not in any way deny or would spit in someone's face that many men abuse porn, wives suffer due to addictions. I am even against hard core, I think it goes too far, more regulations should be on the internet even. But instructional videos, I have zero issues with such things -where consenting adults choose to take part.
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Instructional videos for the most part was not what we were talking about that was merely one point. I am talking about porn.
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My husband does NOT objectify women , nor look down on them. Sure he likes a little eye candy, this is the nature of testosterone.
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That is objectification.
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And now, Syrum is throwing out the hypocrite card asking if any men would want their mothers, sisters or daughters doing porn. Much arsenol there. Crucify us. I asked my husband this morning, he admits immediately then he is a hypocrite. I guess me too. As if any of us are NOT in one area or another. Come now.
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I see nopthing wrong with asking that question, it just shines a big light on the truth of this issue and how women are not respected and are in fact used. i try not to be a hypocrite if I can help it, porn is one area, I can do something about it.
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Given she also finds Romance novels harmful, I can assume sexual fantases of any type are also within this hurtful damaging realm. This is completely over the top for me personally. Her fiance should make note of these things for their future together, lest he dare have a wayward thought & express it. Better not be checking out another woman in her presence - He will be in the dog house for some time.
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Obviously what I have said has struck a chord with you and you are becoming defensive. I was not attacking any one elses relationships not asuming anything about your husband or wives.
But my fiance is on here perhaps you could ask him about how I feel about sex and fantasies. caring about women and human rights does not a prude make.
Moreover yes I would be hurt if he was checking out other women in front of me, just as he would be hurt if I was checking out other guys. we respect each other and focus on our relationship, and it's working pretty good so far. thanks.
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Lord, we should be shot, we visit Strip Clubs too. A male friend of mine is dating a stripper, she is an elementary School Teacher, 38 yrs old & enjoys her job on the side, she is putting her oldest through college with this cash. She talked with us at lenght one night. Seems very sincere but I can't help but wonder if she is USING HIM ! He spends alot of money on her! Women use men too. To throw that out of the equation entirely- in every instance, for me, is just wrong. Women choose to do these things for $$$, lots of it and fast. It comes from their own mouths.
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I have known strippers and prostitutes too but their stories are not so rosy.
