twotimeloser

Thanks for sharing.

I remember back in college how i would sit and listen to my professors talk about how people are influenced as i sat their thinking "People are really dumb, in general" As a society, we are not dumb, just really really selfish. That is what will end us. Not a meteor, not angels opening seals and not some Mayan calendar predictions.

Anyone who reads this post needs to see the thought process here and let this post be a living breathing example of why this board exists.

Rarely do we see such a blatant example of pure selfishness as we see in this post. It is the embodiment of self-serving and in my opinion Ladybyrd, you should not be married at all to anyone.

You cheated on your husband, not because you were weak but because you were filling your needs to serve yourself.

Not only do you not feel bad about it, you actually REGRET not having gotten physical with him. Someone give this gal a "Wife of the year" award.

Why dont you evaluate yourself a second... Here, let me help... You said this:

"Over the last 7 years my marriage had been going down hill. The last 2 years have been the worst on me. My H has refused to meet my needs for sometime. I am not talking just about sex. I want an emotional connection with someone."

MY marriage? Worst for ME? MY needs? I want an emotional connection with SOMEONE? Your problem isn't with your husband, it is with yourself. In one paragraph you have single handedly displayed everything wrong with humanity.

After all this self-serving behavior, and the disgusting displays of "ME ME ME" you have the audacity to say you feel guilty a "bit" But you dont really, remember, because you regret not sexing it up.

The nail in the coffin here is the idea of your post in the first place. The only reason for you NOT to tell your husband is because of how it will effect YOU. The fact that you have to ask strangers if you should do the right thing, proves that your selfish nature consumes you and defines you.

Now i want this clear... I believe that marriages can be saved after infidelity. I am proof of that myself. But you have to start with something good, a good foundation to build on. Ladybyrd, you are on another planet. Marriage is not something cut out for folks like you. I am not saying divorce your husband and find someone else, I am saying leave him and dont burden anyone with your selfishness until you have reformed.

This is a much different side of me, than a lot of people here have seen. The reason for that is simple. I offer advice and opinions under the assumption that both parties CAN be worked with. Selfish people should be single. And you ... should be single.

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