Originally Posted by 4EverHope
I think I stay with my husband because of my son. And I am afraid, not knowing what's going to happened.
I loved my husband very much, he was sweet and help around alot. We did everything together but slowly it change and I started to do everything myself or with my son. It's like he takes me for granted and that I will always be around. He's not the same man I felt in love with and I know I have change too.
So it is comforting to stay with him. It is a security issue. It does sound like he takes you for granted and you have to be very careful not to become his doormat. He gets to have his cake and eat it to because you have not stood up for yourself. It is time to love yourself and know that you do not have to deal with this. I would call a marriage counselor asap and tell him that you both need to go. Yes, you both have changed. You probably now resent him and are questioning why you have dealt with this up to this point. You must be very careful and not play the martyr hear as well. Yes, you sound like a great wife and mother, but happiness has to come from within yourself and that is why I encourage you to find. Do what makes you happy. Get out with your girlfriends or take up a new hobby and start doing things for yourself. Get into counseling for yourself and your marriage. That way you can begin to love you again!