| | Husband says I exhaust him when I want to talk about feelings
My husband said to me the other day that he avoids spending time with me because he knows that I will always want to talk about "feelings". He says it's exhausting. He just wants to hang out, have a relaxing time. He said he gets nervous every time he sees me look at him with "that" look. He says when I say "let's talk about our feelings" it always ends up being "let's talk about his feelings" and he says it takes too much energy. My defense is I am not happy. We need to work on our marriage. Ofcourse I always want to talk about his feelings because he never shows them to me willingly. We can ride in the same car for 6 hours and if I don't say something, he would be content to ride in silence the whole 6 hours. He loves to get "lost" in his own brain. He says he is constantly having a conversation but it's with himself in his mind. He is very intreverted this way. His idea of relaxing is if he was home all by himself without me and the kids so that he can just read books, watch movies on history and wars, and be able to think. My idea of relaxing is hanging out with as many people as possible. Is it just a man/woman thing? Or is it us? The only verbal compliments he has given me in 12 years is "I love you", "you look nice", "thanks for doing that for me", and the cherry on top, "I love your VERY much".
Am I blowing things out of proportion here? Or am I right to expect more from male species?
Last edited by nala21; 04-07-2011 at 05:02 PM.
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