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Trooper · 04-08-2011, 08:37 AM

Regarding him stopping, about 4 years ago he ended up in the hospital with a heart arythmia, he was in serious A-fib. He had to be transferred to a hospital that could handle it and this went on for 3 days despite drugs he was being given that the doctor said normally would restore the normal rhythm. He eventually had to have a procedure where they stopped his heart and restarted it with the shock paddles. He insists it was due to heat stroke, but he had been in the heat 3 or 4 days before this happened. I did research and found that the anabolic steroid can cause this, but he refused to believe it and did not tell the doctor about his steroid use.

He has also been pulled over for road rage and frequently says he wants to beat someone up for something as minor as driving in his blind spot or cutting him off. I do not think he will ever admit the steroids are a problem. He always insists that professional athletes do it and none of them have had any problems so it's fine. I think he is addicted to being big and living in the past when he was a college football player.

I do think he always had mental issues, but I didn't realize it until after we were married. I think the steroids and time have just made it all much worse.

Any problem we have is blamed on me, not the steroids or his mental issues. And I mean EVERYTHING is my fault. If he has work related issues that's even my fault somehow, because I did something to stress him and make him behave badly at work. He denies all responsibility for his actions so I do not think he will ever quit steroids. I have asked him over and over to quit and/or to get counseling but he says counselors will "gang up on him" and he's just fine and doesn't need some a-h*** telling him what to do.

04-08-2011, 08:37 AM	#17 (permalink)
Trooper Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 140	Re: I am afraid of my husband - men any advice? Regarding him stopping, about 4 years ago he ended up in the hospital with a heart arythmia, he was in serious A-fib. He had to be transferred to a hospital that could handle it and this went on for 3 days despite drugs he was being given that the doctor said normally would restore the normal rhythm. He eventually had to have a procedure where they stopped his heart and restarted it with the shock paddles. He insists it was due to heat stroke, but he had been in the heat 3 or 4 days before this happened. I did research and found that the anabolic steroid can cause this, but he refused to believe it and did not tell the doctor about his steroid use. He has also been pulled over for road rage and frequently says he wants to beat someone up for something as minor as driving in his blind spot or cutting him off. I do not think he will ever admit the steroids are a problem. He always insists that professional athletes do it and none of them have had any problems so it's fine. I think he is addicted to being big and living in the past when he was a college football player. I do think he always had mental issues, but I didn't realize it until after we were married. I think the steroids and time have just made it all much worse. Any problem we have is blamed on me, not the steroids or his mental issues. And I mean EVERYTHING is my fault. If he has work related issues that's even my fault somehow, because I did something to stress him and make him behave badly at work. He denies all responsibility for his actions so I do not think he will ever quit steroids. I have asked him over and over to quit and/or to get counseling but he says counselors will "gang up on him" and he's just fine and doesn't need some a-h*** telling him what to do.