Originally Posted by Trooper

Well I do need to file for divorce, he has basically spent all the money I had any access to and has cash stashed away where I cannot access it. My therapist advised me to have 911 on speed dial and to have a safe place to go to and I have that, but I do need to see a divorce attorney so I can freeze the assets because he is the type who will clean out everything if he senses what is going on. I just cannot allow him to make me pennyless, I bought this house on my own and have always paid the mortgage, taxes, etc. - he never paid for any of it and I will not lose what little I have left to a jerk like him. I just need to be very secretive about my actions until the order is filed.

Thanks to everyone for all your advice, it has really been very helpful. I just don't understand why someone like this would refuse to get help, but I guess if he doesn't think he's sick he doesn't see any reason to get help. It's just so frustrating that everyone else can see it but he can't.