This is my guess:
- He will be very grateful you have made such a big effort to get "there" for him
- He won't want you to keep doing this
IF you are doing this on a night where you cannot finish with intercourse, and you get him to teach you how, likely you can finish the very end with a highly skilled handjob and it will still feel really good to him. Saliva can act as a lubricant - which makes the hand job feel better, or you can put some on for the finale.
I am betting on your H having a much more supportive reaction to this than you might expect.
Originally Posted by Catherine602
MEM I never considered asking him how important it is or if there is some compromise that would please him. I have no problem with finishing but, it is the semen in my mouth that's the problem. I never explored or we never discussed how important it is him. I need to do that. Maybe if I let him know that I am having a problem with developing a phobia he will understand and we can compromise. I do use a towel to spit.
I read of so many men who are deeply dissatisfied because their partner does not like to have semen in the mouth that I thought it was important. The men don't seem to say anything so I have a feeling that even if he understood it would bother him on some level. I'll will talk to him with the aim of finding out how important it is before I say I am having a problem.
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