MariaR

It depends on the person. For me, yes. I figure I'm not really into NFL, NBA, NCAA, PGA, NASCAR... you name it (yes, they're boring!). And yet, I try to have the get togethers over at our place because it's important to him. And I cook whatever menu I think everyone (mostly guys) would like.

Now I'm a busy career woman with kids and that isn't exactly my idea of a great time, either the cooking, the yelling at the tv, or the cleaning part, but I make the best of it and participate because it's important to me to make my husband happy. Does he have to ask me if he can do it? Does he have to tell me that it's important to him or that it would mean a lot if I participated? Does he have to give me a hard time if I don't? Does this have to become one of our issues that eventually lands us either in counseling or divorce court? Not from my end.

So it would be nice if he reciprocated. He doesn't, and it actually reflects in many ways throughout our marriage mainly in the selfish attitude that says he only cares if he's happy. Sorry... but it does matter. And I'm close to following your ex-wife out the door...