Originally Posted by southbound
As for taking a lot to be a deal breaker, nothing short of cheating or abuse would be a deal breaker for me. I think it's because I take the commitment of marriage very seriously. To me, it trivializes marriage to divorce without exhausting yourself to work it out. It seems weird that we stay together through sickness and health till death do us part, but I'll leave if you don't play games with me and go to the beach.
I seriously doubt it was just that. More was brewing under the surface, and some of it could have just been ALL HER. Sometimes women get depressed & they can't even explain why! And some leave what they thought was a bad marraige only to find out their is nothing better out there. Some regret it.
I totally agree about the "exhausting yourself to work it out
" part , this was skipped from your wife. I believe it is the responsibiity of the UNHAPPY spouse is SPEAK UP, make an ISSUE Loud & clear - so things have an opportunity
to be overcome.
Sadly though, many do this very thing , women and men, and still they keep coming up empty handed , hitting a brick wall, no common ground, no passion, resentment continues. I think alot of us have DEAL BREAKERS and yes, many have a longer list than yours SouthBound.
I personally would not be able to remain in an unhappy / unfullfilling marraige. I am just too darn Selfish. I can admit it ! But I also give ALOT -so I expect alot in return.
I would blow the Vows to the wind (after a time of exhusting), get a divorce & be on a mission to find someone more compitable.
Here is an interesting thread about "Deal Breakers" Trenton Started a while back - What are your deal breakers women?