| | Re: Synopsis & Update on ongoing? emotional affair
I want to make this clear. and I want to explain this in a way that you will really get the entire picture of.
Now some are going to disagree with but I Will explain why it would be a good idea in YOUR situation, and not in most.
You need to locate that phone. Before you locate it, you should set up a cutting boards and a hammer.
When you locate that phone, you should smash it with a hammer in front of her. and say the following " As part of our commitment to each other, i am committed to helping you where you are weak. This act that I have just done is to support you in YOUR goal of staying committed. If you get another phone, I will find it and continue to smash each phone you buy, in order to help you achieve your goals. That is the best way i can help you"
Now some of you are on the floor right now... but this why it should be done this way...
She will get away with anything you let her get away with... Which has been everything up to this point.
Being that she is aggressive and you are passive, she does not understand your message. If you deal with her in an assertive manner ( a cousin of aggressive) Then she will fully understand you.
Aggressive people communicate through force. Not physical but through verbal force and symbolic force. They like to hold things over peoples heads and exert authority. This is where you need to be, in order to communicate with her effectively. Passive people avoid and accomidate.. your lack of action on this prepaid phone has been accomidation and that is enabling.
Find the phone and smash it... That is not some redneck advice, it is real advice.
***Expectation is premeditated resentment***