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AtMyWitsEnd · 12-05-2007, 05:02 PM

My wife and I have been happily married for 15 years and I would give the world for her.

Two years ago there was an accident which has rendered her unable to have sex (intercourse). We were able to have oral sex for about nine months but due to her deteriorating condition it was no longer fair to ask her to continue.

It has been over one year now and I am finding myself looking at women more and more and as time goes on it is getting harder and harder to suppress my sexual needs/feelings and I am afraid that there is going to come a time when my hormones are going to do the thinking and not my brain and end up cheating on her which would absolutely crush her.

I know that she feels bad about it because she has started apologizing three to four times a week along the lines of "I'm so glad your here, most men would have probably left by now", which if anything, compounds the problem.

Has anyone ever had this problem and if so, how do you cope… I love my wife dearly and the last thing I ever want to do is put her/us in a position that would result in the two of us splitting up. I don’t know if I could handle that.

Any and all comment and suggestions would be more than welcome.

Thanks.

12-05-2007, 05:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
AtMyWitsEnd Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 3	Trying desperately to cope My wife and I have been happily married for 15 years and I would give the world for her. Two years ago there was an accident which has rendered her unable to have sex (intercourse). We were able to have oral sex for about nine months but due to her deteriorating condition it was no longer fair to ask her to continue. It has been over one year now and I am finding myself looking at women more and more and as time goes on it is getting harder and harder to suppress my sexual needs/feelings and I am afraid that there is going to come a time when my hormones are going to do the thinking and not my brain and end up cheating on her which would absolutely crush her. I know that she feels bad about it because she has started apologizing three to four times a week along the lines of "I'm so glad your here, most men would have probably left by now", which if anything, compounds the problem. Has anyone ever had this problem and if so, how do you cope… I love my wife dearly and the last thing I ever want to do is put her/us in a position that would result in the two of us splitting up. I don’t know if I could handle that. Any and all comment and suggestions would be more than welcome. Thanks.