04-20-2011, 12:01 PM
Join Date: Apr 2011
| | Re: Spending Most Time On Computers
I can imagine that women might have a problem with a husband that is unemployed and spends all day on the computer instead of contributing to the welfare of the house and family. If this is the case, your situation can cause a great deal of stress in the home. I would try to see things from their perspective and try to set some clear expectations about what you do on the computer and when.
Originally Posted by unreal
I am looking for advice on an issue which I have not just with my wife, but all women friends and family.
There seems to be a hate for men to be sitting in front of a computer for long periods taking like 5 hours at a time. I work from home and study from home on the internet and my wife as well as others see this as odd as they have not adjusted to the Internet life yet.
Are you contributing to the household chores? Are you spending time with your wife when you are away from the computer?
Yes, personally I would like more time away from the computer and only use it for 1 or 2 hours per day. But I work 8 hours per day as do most people in offices use computers women somehow seem to accept that than sitting at home. They rather accept sitting and watching the TV or reading a newspaper than sitting at your computer.
When you are "sitting at home" are you earning income?
I have explained to my mother and wife that the computer is my teacher and income earner and I feel the more I use my computer the more I will be able to meet my bills and get the jobs I desire.
I can't tell by this post if you are actually earning an income on your computer. What do you do?
I try to get it through to them that many people waste so much time in needless activities that is not going to get them anywhere. They seems to disagree and view me as lazy and unproductive and unemployed.
Wasting time is wasting time. I can waste time just as easily on the computer as I can watching TV. Could it be that you are unemployed? Could that be your wife's problem?
How can I change their view? I guess its women's nature to like a man who does physical heavy work like construction and fixing broken things rather than the computer stuff.