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Originally Posted by magnoliagal  I think I'm on the computer more than my dh is.
But to your problem is the computer out of sight? In another room hopefully? Can't you hug everyone and say "off to work now" then lock the door and put a do not disturb sign on the door. Then you aren't so available for critism when you are working/studying. Maybe have set work hours so your family knows when you are available and when you aren't.
Also quit explaining yourself to the woman in your life. Just tell them what you have to do and do it. |
My dad had the same problem and he built a room seperate from the home in the garden a study room and my mum seems to accept the he now is working in his study room rather than being lazy in the house. Having your own room not bedroom is seen more professional. When someone hears your working from home and studying from your bedroom they think your kidding on. I think putting a do not distrub sign on is rude and people would still come in. I do have set hours but trust me it doesn't work when your at home that work hours mindset is out the window.
I have a hard time explaining to everyone that 4 million people in the UK work from home part/fulltime they do not believe me nor do they believe you can do a degree from home through the internet.
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Originally Posted by notaname I think great points have been made in the other comments. Quote: |
Are you lazy, unproductive and unemployed?
| No, I work hard but they view me this way by their comments. Quote: |
This was (is) a problem in my own marriage. I totally viewed my husband as lazy, unproductive and unemployed. His business (outside of the home) was/is a failure and so it may generate an income but there was never enough to give himself a paycheck. He would spend hours looking for jobs online that he wasn't qualified for rather than spending that time working towards recertification in his field where he could get a job.
| At least he was trying despite the obsticles God loves a trier.
However, my husband has NEVER seen himself as lazy or unproductive. He thinks he is a very busy and productive person.
I think set hours will help and a set office space. Limit yourself to those set hours and then you need to make an effort to connect emotionally with your wife every day. Spend time talking about hopes and dreams and goals.
I view tv and computer the same if they are being used recreationally. |
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Originally Posted by luckyman I can imagine that women might have a problem with a husband that is unemployed and spends all day on the computer instead of contributing to the welfare of the house and family. If this is the case, your situation can cause a great deal of stress in the home. I would try to see things from their perspective and try to set some clear expectations about what you do on the computer and when. |
Apart from doing a few things round the house mowing the lawn and fixing a leaking tap there not much to do when your off.
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Originally Posted by magnoliagal Oh good point I just went back and reread the post. I was tired when I posted my reply. I thought he "worked" at home as in gainful employment but if he's just learning, looking for a job, for 8 hours a day well yeah that's annoying. Gotta bring in a paycheck or yes women will have a problem with that behavior. |
Well, I would rather look 8 hours plus for jobs than sit talking about nonsense and watching useless tv shows about abortions.
