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Malibu17 · 12-13-2008, 07:34 AM

My wife had a very abusive (verbally & sexually), home life as a child. She's been through counseling for it and is on antidrepressants, which helps her attitude. However, she can still be mentally imbalanced and she can tend to be out of line with our kids from time to time. When I confront her about it, she gets on the defensive. I have a hard time reasoning with her about this and other issues.

We rarely had sex, because 1) I Don't find her very physically attractive. 2) Her anger and/or misdeamoner turn me off. She has a hard time showing affection to me. 3) Her harsh tone of voice (that I and the counselor have discussed), with her, can be irritating.

I considered ordering Mort Fertel's Marriage Fitness Boot Camp to see if it could save our marriage, but I question if it could, especially if my wife has mental issues and cannot be reasoned with half the time.

By the way, it's been like this off and on for 21 difficult years and I finally moved out (with some prompting from her), 9 months ago.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. This is a TOUGH situation and a lot of issues.

What next???

12-13-2008, 07:34 AM	#4 (permalink)
Malibu17 Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 151	Re: Long Term Separation My wife had a very abusive (verbally & sexually), home life as a child. She's been through counseling for it and is on antidrepressants, which helps her attitude. However, she can still be mentally imbalanced and she can tend to be out of line with our kids from time to time. When I confront her about it, she gets on the defensive. I have a hard time reasoning with her about this and other issues. We rarely had sex, because 1) I Don't find her very physically attractive. 2) Her anger and/or misdeamoner turn me off. She has a hard time showing affection to me. 3) Her harsh tone of voice (that I and the counselor have discussed), with her, can be irritating. I considered ordering Mort Fertel's Marriage Fitness Boot Camp to see if it could save our marriage, but I question if it could, especially if my wife has mental issues and cannot be reasoned with half the time. By the way, it's been like this off and on for 21 difficult years and I finally moved out (with some prompting from her), 9 months ago. Any advice is greatly appreciated. This is a TOUGH situation and a lot of issues. What next???