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abbykat · 04-22-2011, 04:26 AM

I work as a waitress 2-3 nights p/wk, go to school 4 nights, and work for a friends business when I can (maybe once p/wk). He works 5-6 days p/wk. I get our daughter in the day and he gets nights.
He doesn't clean up after himself at all... I do laundry, dishes, cooking, grocery shopping, i even changed my own flat tire this week! But he complains if the house is messy (w/ a 21 mo.old), or if the fridge "looks" empty, he doesn't have any clean workshirts, or if I dont cook dinner or make him lunch.
He's never arranged a babysitter, even though I have three times a week for the last year and a half. Our schedules overlap a couple hours in the afternoon. He has a beer with the boys after work when im not at work or school. The weekends are spent together usually hanging out as a family or with our friends. Our money is seperate and we half the bills. The house nessacities are a different matter. Name it... toilet paper toothpaste and cleaning supplies. Whats in the house, I bought. All though its me mostly, he does buy diapers and wipes sometimes. I make my own car payments, he drives my old truck. I have a hard time paying for my half the bills sometimes and he lectures me about how I need to handle my money better. I can't find the time to work more until she starts daycare which I have to pay for myself. I feel like it would be easier single. Taking care of one less person. But I am commited to my husband. Just cant figure out how to get him to contribute more and not discount what I do.

04-22-2011, 04:26 AM	#1 (permalink)
abbykat Registered User Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Hawaii Posts: 12	Unappreciated I work as a waitress 2-3 nights p/wk, go to school 4 nights, and work for a friends business when I can (maybe once p/wk). He works 5-6 days p/wk. I get our daughter in the day and he gets nights. He doesn't clean up after himself at all... I do laundry, dishes, cooking, grocery shopping, i even changed my own flat tire this week! But he complains if the house is messy (w/ a 21 mo.old), or if the fridge "looks" empty, he doesn't have any clean workshirts, or if I dont cook dinner or make him lunch. He's never arranged a babysitter, even though I have three times a week for the last year and a half. Our schedules overlap a couple hours in the afternoon. He has a beer with the boys after work when im not at work or school. The weekends are spent together usually hanging out as a family or with our friends. Our money is seperate and we half the bills. The house nessacities are a different matter. Name it... toilet paper toothpaste and cleaning supplies. Whats in the house, I bought. All though its me mostly, he does buy diapers and wipes sometimes. I make my own car payments, he drives my old truck. I have a hard time paying for my half the bills sometimes and he lectures me about how I need to handle my money better. I can't find the time to work more until she starts daycare which I have to pay for myself. I feel like it would be easier single. Taking care of one less person. But I am commited to my husband. Just cant figure out how to get him to contribute more and not discount what I do.