it-guy

Thanks for those thoughts. I've read them all twice and I'm sure I will again in the morning. These are things that I have been trying to tell myself. I don't have anyone close to me that can give advice on these things or share experience.

Two-Time, your comments seem to hit home a little as far as my "fairy tale" issue. I did do my part in setting this up, as in I was not the best husband in the world. I could have been a heck of a lot better. But I always thought that something like this could not happen because it was not supposed to....after all I would have never done this to her.

And I now know that is not a realistic expectation. A realistic expectation is that if I am not doing my part to make my wife happy, she "may" leave or find someone else to make her happy. There is no "fairy tale" that is going to keep bad things from happening in a marrige. Shame I had to turn 34 to grow up about that.