| | Re: Do you have to stop caring to stay married?
jnj express: you are entitled to your opinion. you have me the same advice. Have you considered the posibility that getting out of the marriage may not make things better? If I ended my marriage, I would mourn for years what I lost. I would still feel that I lost the love of my life. I would still feel betrayed by the person I trusted the most. I would not trust again with someone new.
The core issue is to discover what caused the person to cheat and see if that can be fixed. Then one needs to get over the concepts that they held sacred and accept that their marriage has changed. People on this site are here mostly to save their marriage. If not, they would be on the divorse site. Please, as you've been asked before by others, do some healing yourself before you **** all over people who want to heal. I know your advice is well intentioned, but it really is hurtful to those that need support and help.