 Am I taking this too far?
Hello All.
I am new here and I need advice. My fiancee and I met about 3 years ago and we have been engaged for about 2 years. We love each other, but this relationship is having tremendous emotional toll on us.
We fight all the time over issues I consider trivial. She takes offense very easily, reads meaning into things...I feel so emotionally drained every day just trying to resolve issues.
I think part of the problem is that my fiancee likes to have her way all the time. I am generally a laid back person and I rarely complain. I compromise all the time to please her, but I think she is now taking this too far.
We have always talked about having kids, I wanted 2 and she wanted a very big family like the one she grew up in. She also wanted to adopt kids. I suggested we have 2 kids and adopt 2.
She said she would think about it.
Recently, we got talking and she mentioned that she was not willing to compromise- she wants to have 2 kids and adopt up to 6! She said that had always being her dream and she will not be happy if she could not do that.
I am at crossroads here because although I love her, I just don't see myself raising 8 kids. I realize that parenting is serious business and I want to be able do other things with my life apart from raising kids. We both have professional careers.
This is a deal breaker for me, but I cant help wondering if I am making a mistake. I tried to make her see reason, but as usual she just wants her way.
Please share your thoughts. Thank you
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